Yes, I know. I’ve been horrible about keeping up with the blog.
No excuses, really.
Just the usual… life.
That doesn’t mean I haven’t been writing! In fact, I’ve been writing a ton. I’ve just somehow managed to find people willing to pay me for my rambling thoughts, so they end up elsewhere instead of this blog (that only pays in love and comments, which don’t really pay the bills). I have a regular feminist parenting column over at The Frisky now – so please pop on over and check me out there. I’m also contributing regularly to Kveller, a Jewish parenting website, and The Femisphere is still going strong over at Ms. magazine. You can see all the places I’m writing up above in the “published work” tab.
The biggest writing-related project I’ve got going on now is… my book! I’ve mentioned it here and there before, but now that it’s crunch time, I can provide a few more details. I’ve been hard at work on a book since last spring – one that looks to take apart the “Good Mother” myth that pervades our society. I’ve amassed an incredible collection of women that will share their stories – each one providing a glimpse into motherhood in a way that shows you don’t need to live up to the damaging myth to actually be a good mother. The book itself will be out next Fall from Seal Press, and I am beyond excited for it. There is a huge need and desire to change up the narrative of what motherhood looks like since the dominant one in our society is far too narrow and stereotypical for the majority of mothers out there. Many women don’t see or hear their voices in the dominant narrative, yet it’s the one that continues to be perpetuated in mainstream headlines and cover stories. Perhaps if we had a more varied definition of what it actually means to be a good mother, we’d have less in-fighting and judgment and more energy to tackle the actual issues that affect mothers and families.
In the next few months I’ll be able to let you know about the amazing, inspiring and talented contributors who are sharing their stories, and more general information about when and where the book will be available. Until then, I’ll be knee deep in editing a manuscript that’s been many months in the making!
While it’s not exactly a resolution, I do have a hope for 2013. My hope is that the more we talk about motherhood, its challenges (both personal and political) and the reality of it all, we’ll expand our definition of who or what is a mother. I’m sure there will be the same sensationalizing and click-bait headlines as always (oh, hai Kimye’s baby to be. Thanks for filling up the next year with headlines we definitely don’t need to read), but perhaps in the mix we will have more needed discussion about policy and issues that actually impact families and women. My small hope is that my anthology will be a jumping off point for one of those discussions.
In the meantime, I’ll keep writing and you can find me spilling my thoughts out all over the place, and hopefully – occasionally – here as well. Wishing you all a happy, healthy, and peaceful new year.
Instead of asking what your new year’s resolution is, I want to know: What good mother myths do *YOU* want to see torn down in 2013?