Shall we ignore the fact that this poor blog has been sadly neglected and just dive right in? No? Okay. Apologies up front. I’ve been busy! In addition to my current full time gig working for the Yale School of … Continue reading
From time to time I publish guest posts from Circle of Health International (COHI), a group of midwives and health care professionals committed to providing quality maternal health care worldwide. Read on to learn more about their newest campaign related … Continue reading
What’s in a name? A recent NYTimes Motherlode post says that there’s plenty. Nikisia Drayton’s piece, “Will a ‘Black’ Name Brand My Son With Mug Shots Before He’s Even Born?” delves into the potential ramifications over giving her son to be a … Continue reading
Here’s the deal – there are all sorts of myths when it comes to what feminism is or who feminists are. Feminists hate men. Feminists burn their bras. Feminists are all lesbians. Feminists don’t shave or wear make up or … Continue reading
This past Sunday, my friend Cheryl Kilodavis, author of My Princess Boy posted this to her personal Facebook wall (reposted with permission): “I am so F’in tired of people racial profiling my son! Last week a white man said, “Move blackie” as he … Continue reading
Apparently it’s guest week here at the Mamafesto! But no, that doesn’t mean I’ll now accept guest post requests for “hot beach bods” or “how to get your kid to eat broccoli” that seem to clog up my inbox. The ones this week are from people I respect and trust. Today’s guest post is from my Our Reality partner, Carrie Nelson. Carrie has a new side project that I’m hoping you’ll take the time to learn a bit more about and check out for yourself!
My Label is “LesbiAnders.” What Is YOUR Label?
I’ve been openly not-heterosexual for twelve years. In that time, I’ve changed the label that I use to define my sexuality no less than three times. Gay, bisexual, and queer have all felt appropriate at various points, yet none have ever felt “just right.” The most accurate descriptor I’ve ever used is “lesbiAnders,” the label I invented when I started to date my husband (Anders) after exclusively dating women for several years, but even that doesn’t always feel accurate or all-encompassing enough. Words are all we have to communicate our sexual identities to others; why, then, does it feel like they so often fail us?
In an effort to challenge the way we talk about sexual identity, I’m launching a photo project on Tumblr called What Is Your Label? I’m looking for people to submit photos of themselves while holding their sexual orientation “label,” as well as a description of what those labels mean to them. Have you used the same label since childhood? Do you switch between multiple labels depending on your environment or mood? Whatever your labels are, I want to hear about them. Ultimately, I want this project to start a conversation about the words that we use to describe our sexual orientations so that we can understand their limitations and explore new ways of communicating complex ideas about sexuality.
Stay tuned — I’ve got big plans for this project. For now, though, I’d be honored if you’d submit your label and join the conversation!
Back in March, I hosted a guest post on the midwifery model of care from Sera Bonds, found of Circle of Health International. Since then, I’ve kept tabs on all the great, much needed work that COHI has been doing … Continue reading
When I was in high school, I was a member of the Jewish youth group BBYO. At the end of my Junior year, I ended up running for a spot on the regional board as Shlicha – the person in … Continue reading
I had the joy and privilege of attending a very special graduation ceremony yesterday. Our current City Council president here in Northampton, Bill Dwight, recently earned his GED, and what better way to celebrate than to hold an actual graduation? But … Continue reading
Earlier this morning I anxiously awaited the verdict in the Steubenville rape case. I was on edge, and I wasn’t even personally connected to this case beyond being a woman, a mother of a son, and somebody with a ton … Continue reading